As a bride and provider of the wedding universe, I feel compelled to share good tips for this moment. That way, it would be no different now that I'm organizing my bridal shower.
My wedding is almost here – November is here! – and to start celebrations, I decided to have my bridal shower in September. For some brides this party is optional, for others (and I fit into this group) it is essential. But how to organize a party that is just right for you and without stress? Come with me and I'll explain!
Bridal shower tradition
Historically, bridal shower is very current, and it is not known for sure when it appeared. It is believed that it came from the need to prepare the bride for the wedding night, since with the rush of wedding preparations, she ends up forgetting about this moment.
Eventually, there was the bridal shower where the guests and godmothers present the bride with lingerie for her future married life and, along with the gift, comes that afternoon of fun and relaxation for girls only.
While this party became popular, the games, the 'spicy' moments and the most ridiculous decorations with lingerie and, at times, pieces from a sexy shop, also became traditions. But, if, like me, you don't identify with any of these “traditional” items, rest assured that they are NOT mandatory. And I'm going to show you here how you can decide and have a bridal shower that really represents who you are.
Where to start organizing my bridal shower
1. Start with the branding
First of all, let's make it clear that Branding it's not just stationery. It actually involves all the visual elements that will be present on that day: decoration, clothing, party location, stationery and even the food and drink that will be served.
That's why I've developed an easy way for you to define the key information of your branding, so that it helps you to make a good part of the decisions related to that day. You need to define 3 points:
- Define the style of your party: classic, modern, rustic, creative… don't be afraid to mix the styles you like the most. don't be afraid to mix the styles you like the most.
- Define the concept for this day: make a list and define if your party will be big or small, if it will be during the day or night, what will be the activities or moments of the party, if it will be fun/comical or more peaceful.
- Define the colour palettes: I know this is the biggest indecision point among brides, but in this first moment you don't need to define the final colours of your party. Just the palette line you want, to be able to guide your decisions.
Right after making these first decisions, we now need to look for references that will guide budgets and priorities.
2. Do a reference search
Above all, don't start to do your research without first defining your branding. The truth is, there are millions of amazing referrals on Instagram, Google and Pinterest and without a branding you will feel lost. Especially if you're already an indecisive bride.
Once you have defined your three branding informations, it's time to do assertive researches. The site I recommend most for this is Pinterest – Instagram, in my opinion, is too repetitive and Google is a mess.
Also, using English words to do your researches helps a lot in the results you will find. After all, English is the language of the internet.
And which keywords to use? Those related to your branding. You can mix ‘style + colour palette’, ‘style + concept’, ‘colour palette + concept’, among others. You can also search for terms like lingerie shower, bridal shower, bridal party, and even baby shower (believe me, sometimes the results are amazing).
Some I used for my research: 'italian bridal shower' (theme + bridal shower), 'citrus party' (theme + party, to open the fan), 'rustic italian party' (style + theme), 'yellow blue sicilian shower' (colour palette + theme + type of party).
After the targeted searches, Pinterest itself will link related searches, and you'll find a lot of beautiful stuff by accident. Collect all the ideas found in a moodboard.quadro de ideiasThis will guide your suppliers and/or godmothers and friends who will help you in this task. See mine:
3. Make an organizing schedule
Moodboard in hands, make an organizing schedule. This will help you a lot!
Define how long you have to make all the budgets and who will be able to help you at all stages. If you can delegate tasks to the groom, mother, mother-in-law and bridesmaids, it will be great! If you don't think it's necessary, at least you can organize everything without freaking out.
#Tip: if you want to have a fun day, ask your closest bridesmaids to organize it. That way you'll have a few surprises in the day, and you'll have one less thing to think about in the organization. They will love to participate!
4. Budgets and priorities
This is the most difficult and the MOST IMPORTANT phase of a bridal shower. Before you start asking for budgets aimlessly, define the total budget of the party and what are your reals priorities. It sounds obvious, but many brides don't make these decisions first and get frustrated during the preparation process.
First, get your moodboard and your guest list and analyze everything you'll need: food, drink, decor, music. Think about what you want to serve and how you would like the decoration to be. Even before budgets, define two things that are priorities to you Why? Because in case the values are higher than expected, you focus your investment on what is essential and think of alternatives for the rest. And why two? Because more than that, you are no longer thinking about priorities, but a list of things to do.
Finally, start budgeting for everything you've defined as a priority and need for that day. My tip is that you budget with maximum 3 suppliers of each area. More than that, it's just a waste of time. Ask for values, deadlines and if they will really be able to serve you. Important to clear all your doubts before closing and regret it.
5. On the day of your bridal shower
First, you don't want to do everything alone that day! Unlike the preparations so far, setting up everything requires more than a pair of hands, and it is important that you have help to organize the decoration, the food, freeze everything and get everything ready to receive your guests.
In the same way that you made a schedule for the pre-event, have a step-by-step guide for organizing the party for the day and ask for help from those closest to you at all stages. This is your day and you need to have fun and be well rested! Delegate tasks and don't want to be Wonder Woman. Finally, enjoy this party a lot!
#Extra tip: Get inspired, don't copy!
In advance, I'll let you know that during this organizing process, you'll find wonderful references that you'll want for yesterday. But don't get carried away! We know that foreigners don't save money at party time, and the reality of other countries in terms of values is different from ours.
Trying to copy a party you loved can be expensive. So, from the initial moodboard, I create inspirational panels from all areas so that I can have control of every detail, without freaking out and without spending too much on one of them, having to extrapolate the budget to finish the rest.
You can also make a map of the party to be able to analyze it and make sure you're not forgetting anything. If you are not organizing the party with the help of a professional, this will help you a lot. I did and loved it!
See how a good organization starts with branding? After all, defining the style, concept and colour palette helps you to guide most of your choices, and it makes life a lot easier for the bride who has a million things to decide (believe me, I know hahaha).
I hope these tips help you a lot and as soon as my bridal shower happens, I'll share everything with you!
Merci for following me, Francy ♥